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Subtitle:
An Opinionated Daddy's View of Life
Thursday, February 14, 2013
Once again, I received the following email from a kind and thoughtful reader. I
have no idea if it is original prose or not. But, he was kind enough to
send it in response to some of my postings, so I'd like to share it
with the other readers.
... as the song is sung...
... "we are finding who we are"...
(king's x - impressive catalog)
... so who i am...
... is as oft unknown to me...
... as it is to you... ... though in this becoming...
... and unbecoming...
... perhaps we both...
... are better men now...
... than then...
... and if faith rewards...
... most excellent in character...
... in yon fore when... ... and i will pray your year...
... more wonderful...
... than you know mine shall be...
... and that you shall have...
... resilience...
... as you are full of "why"...
... and shall have...
... patience...
... as others are... ... and, of course...
... in addition to being...
... well read...
... and well laid...
... that you are...
... well loved... blessings from the kingdom of the two seas. laeth
Once again, I received the following email from a kind and thoughtful reader. I
have no idea if it is original prose or not. But, he was kind enough to
send it in response to some of my postings, so I'd like to share it
with the other readers.
... as the song is sung...
... "we are finding who we are"...
(king's x - impressive catalog)
... so who i am...
... is as oft unknown to me...
... as it is to you... ... though in this becoming...
... and unbecoming...
... perhaps we both...
... are better men now...
... than then...
... and if faith rewards...
... most excellent in character...
... in yon fore when... ... and i will pray your year...
... more wonderful...
... than you know mine shall be...
... and that you shall have...
... resilience...
... as you are full of "why"...
... and shall have...
... patience...
... as others are... ... and, of course...
... in addition to being...
... well read...
... and well laid...
... that you are...
... well loved... blessings from the kingdom of the two seas. laeth
As I re-read, 'The Caine Mutiny,' as I do sometimes two or
three times a year, I am often struck by how much I identify with one of the
characters.I did so before I joined the
Navy, have done so for the nearly 34 years I've been in the Navy, and probably
will do so long after I am retired from the Navy.Oddly, it isn't Willie, nor is it Maryk.I actually identify with Queeg.Funny, how a literary character can have such
an impact.My 9th grade English teacher,
Mrs. O'doan, once told me (when I commented on how much I enjoyed Mr. Wouk's
work)that she didn't think much of his
work because the characters in his books lack depth. I didn't agree then, and I
agree even less so now.Every time I
read the book, I find different and new things.I see the characters and their actions in new ways.Part of this, I am sure, is that as we age,
our perspectives change and such.But to
my mind, this experience is more a case of well written characters, written by
a master who had embued the characters with shades of colors that, like an old,
oriental rug, which changes color and becomes more exquisite and beautiful,
even as it fades.I often find myself
using Queeg as a prism through which I see both the good and bad qualities of
my character.Like him, I am short and
pot-bellied, though I have a full head of dark hair.I suffer from anxiety, which manifests itself
as irritation.I am shy and awkward
around strangers. Those are some of the bad qualities.The good:I believe in service.I try to do
things right.The Navy is one of the
most important things in my life.I don’t
think I’d be able to experience this phenomena, if not for how multi-layered
and deep is the Queeq character.I’ve
read almost all of Mr. Wouk’s works of fiction.In each I have found the sense of place and time compelling. When I read the book, I can smell the rotting
potatoes, I can feel the quiver of the old ship when she crashes into the dock
in Oakland., I am transported to the Clip Shack.Having always had a fascination for Four-pipers
(and their various permutations), I almost feel as though I’ve been aboard one.
I went recently to a WWII veterans
reunion for a group of APD veterans (APD’s being one of the permutations
through which the four-pipers went, though one focused on troop transport, not
mine sweeping).The old salts were all
shocked that a young buck (compared to them) like me would attend.Having read the book so many times, the
description of life aboard the rusty, old Caine, so vividly described, as I
listened to their stories, it was like I had been right there with them.Is the book perfect, perhaps not.Do I have some nagging questions, yes(for example, how can Queeq be so much older
than the members of his wardroom, when he only graduated from USNA in 1936?In 1944, with only 8 years of service, how
can he be so wizened an old LCDR?) .But
do I feel transported back to a time and place I can only imagine?Yes. And isn’t that one of the most important
things a well-written book does for the reader?Yes.
Once of my most prized possessions is a first addition of, ‘The
Caine Mutiny,’ signed by Mr. Wouk.It is
probably the closest I’ll ever come to meeting him.It is prominently displayed in my living
room.I point it out whenever I have
guests. Ooops, I am starting to sound like a gushing school girl, which I’ve
tried to avoid.So as not to ruin my
strict military officer personae, I’ll stop and just say, “That Herman Wouk, he
sure writes great books, dang great books.”
At least, that is what THIS DADDY thinks.
Trailer for 'The Caine Mutiny' directed by Edward Dmytryk. 1954.