An Opinionated Daddy's View of Life

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

The Belly Chronicles, #2

Here are 5 reasons you need to give chubby guys a chance.

Recently, we've told you bald, bearded and shorter men are better. And now comes size. Yes, bigger is better. But not for the reason you're thinking.
If you've been passing up chubby guys for skinny or muscular ones because you assume that they can't be great lovers or they're unhealthy, then listen up. We're here to show you why you need a hefty hunk.
With Santa Claus, one of the plumpest fellas around coming to town shortly, it's the perfect time to break down the argument against dating heavier guys. 
Here are 5 reasons why you've been missing out on total boyfriend material.
1. Chubby could mean that person is comfortable and happy  not lazy and depressed.
Chubby guys are happy ones! Ever wonder why Santa is so jolly? Turns out, the good spirits even last into marriage. According to a study published in Health Psychology, happily married newlyweds are more likely to gain weight after their weddings unlike their unhappily married counterparts. And who doesn't want a happy marriage?

2. They're more understanding to your own weight gain.
Whether you're dating a skinny, muscular, chubby, or obese guy, make sure that if you truly want to be with this person then he won't be shallow enough to judge you for a few pounds here or there. Guys with a little junk in the trunk are more likely to be understanding when it comes to your own weight roller coaster. Practice loving yourself and your lover no matter how much you both weigh.

3. They're the best cuddlers.
Sure six-packs and jacked arms can be nice to gaze at, but when it comes to snuggling up with your guy, you're going to want some cushion. There's nothing like getting enveloped by a bigger man's arms. You have a personal, portable, always-comfy pillow! 

4. They may be healthier than you think.
In fact, he'll be around longer. If you're all about health then don't overlook the chubby guys. Journal of the American Medical Association researchers found that overweight people (but not obese) may live longer than people that are clinically normal body weight. So if your end goal is to live longer (and whose isn't?) then a guy with a little extra fat may be the perfect partner in crime.

5. They're better lovers.
Does size matter in the bedroom? You know it! But we're talking about belly size here. A study out of Turkey concluded that overweight men with obvious bellies last longer in bed than their thinner counterparts. Chubby guys have more of the female sex hormone estradiol in their bodies, which slows down their orgasms — meaning you guys can get it on all night long. Go big or go home!

Okay, as we all know, I am not into chubby guys, so I get that posting these articles may be hypocritical, sorry.  But, everybody is a little hypocritical sometimes, right?

Hey, at least I am upfront about it, right?

At least, that is what THIS DADDY thinks.

'Buddha's Belly Dance'. Groovy Power yoga music by Fred Westra

Monday, October 27, 2014

The Belly Chronicles, #1

Men With Big Bellies Make Better Lovers (Says Science)


A study proves more gut DOES equal more glory in the bedroom.

Hey ladies: take a break from chasing that six-packed Adonis and instead divert your gaze to the oft-overlooked Homer Simpson doppelganger. You may thank us for it. 
study out of Turkey concluded that overweight men with obvious bellies last longer in bed than their thinner counterparts. These heroic researchers (dedicated to finding answers to life's big problems) studied the BMI and sexual performance of 100 men seeking help for sexual dysfunctions contrasted against 100 men who reported no problems. 

The result? Men with a higher BMI and, yes, unsightly guts, lasted an average of 7.3 minutes where the slimmer of the group could barely hold on for 2 minutes. Ouch, right? A five-minute difference is pretty significant. As in three times as long kind of significant. In fact, they found skinnier guys more likely to suffer from premature ejaculation, too. 

At first blush this might seem counter intuitive. The penis if often referred to as the dipstick of a man's health, so wouldn't those at a healthier weight be able to last longer? Not exactly. Scientists say it's more complicated then that. More belly fat, they say, means the man in question is housing more of the female sex hormone estradiol, which helps to inhibit orgasm. The researchers even went so far as to say that men with less masculine bodies have the upper hand in holding out than a guy who are buff, like, say, a Ryan Reynolds body double. 
Sigh. This must be yet another one of life's cruel practical jokes — and the silver lining if your man's two biggest hobbies are beer and nachos.

Okay, I admit it, as a Total Top with a firm belly, I've always knows this to be the truth, but now science has proved it!

Sometimes Science gets it right!

At least, that is what THIS DADDY thinks.

It's My Belly Button (Song)
Rhett & Link Rhett & Link

Thursday, October 23, 2014

It's Funny, Sometimes You Feel Like a Nut, and Sometimes You Don't

I came across the following article today.  It struck me both with its truth (i.e. feeling like a nut) and how hard it can be to agree with and live up to each comment (i.e. sometimes you don't) on a regular basis.

10 Reasons to Embrace "Aging Gaily"

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  Actor, writer & creator/star of web series Old Dogs & New Tricks

Chances are, if you are a gay man facing your 50th birthday, you're feeling a wide range of emotions right now -- and none of them good! You feel rejected by gay society, ignored by younger generations coming up. You fear you'll become one of those gay men who ignore the clock and keep living a lifestyle that no longer works for them.

What if I told you that there are just as many compelling reasons to celebrate "aging gaily"?
OK, once you stop laughing, hear me out!

Like the changing seasons, each stage of life has its pluses and minuses. In autumn, you can focus on the cold wind and the shorter days -- or you can light a fire, enjoy the vibrant fall colors and look forward to Halloween and Thanksgiving!

It's just a matter of tweaking your thinking. For every reason to feel like life as you know it has ended, there is an equally compelling reason to embrace your age. It's just a matter of perspective.

So next time you're feeling depressed about your age, remind yourself of these ten advantages of aging gaily, and I guarantee you will feel better!

1. You realize that speaking your mind is empowering. You no longer play games, or present a false self to "fit in." You know who you are, and don't try to change to please others. If some don't accept you for who you are, you know that there are plenty who will.
2. You've had enough "sport sex" and now recognize it for what it is. You don't read more into it. And if you're seeking more than sport, you learn to change your tactics. You've been around enough to know true love almost never happens on Grindr or Adam4Adam.
3. You've seen gorgeous men age badly, and other men actually get better looking with age. You realize that looks are ever-changing, and not as likely to fall for just a pretty face or a hot body. (I looked 35 all my life. Now I've 'grown into' my face and, for the first time ever, people tell me I look younger than my age!)
4. Patience. You finally learn that good things are worth waiting for.
5. In the 70s, it was the Communists. In the 80s, it was nuclear holocaust, and then Japanese takeover of our economy. Now, its Islamic terrorists and Ebola. The media has predicted the end of the world forever. When you stick around long enough, you learn to take all the dire warnings with a boulder of salt.
6. Friends become your family as your blood family grows distant. You learn the true meaning of family -- a group of people who love you, warts and all. You don't have to be uncomfortable, keep secrets or hide your authentic self from your new, true family.
7. Speaking of friends, when you go to bars now, it's to celebrate with friends, not to look for sex. (Ironically, not looking for sex makes you even more desirable!)
8. You no longer have the patience for toxic friendships. You recognize the people who enhance your life, and eliminate those who don't.
9. You learn not to beat yourself up about the mistakes you've made in your life. Instead, you look for the lessons, vow not to make the same mistakes twice and move on.
10. Most importantly, we survived AIDS. We've lived long enough to see gay marriage become a reality! That alone is worth a party! (A lot of our peers weren't so lucky...)
Like coming out, there is nothing to lose and everything to be gained by embracing your age. 
The man has got a point!

At least, that is what THIS DADDY thinks. 
Spider Virus - Sometimes You Feel Like A Nut- ( Spider_Virus-Electric_Erection-1997 )