A Boy’s Guide to Pleasing his Daddy: Volume 3

The following is part of a series of, "Lessons from Daddy," posted on TUMBLR by, 'Ultra Boyhunter'

THIS DADDY has no idea if this or any of the other writings are original and claims no ownership of anything written in this series. THIS DADDY doesn't agree with some of the terminology used (the term, Son, for example) and the content does not necessarily  represent the views of THIS DADDY or, 'Buck Up, Princess.'  

The content, as posted on the Ultra Boyhunter blog, contains videos and images which are not appropriate for readers under 18 (21 in AL, MS, NE, WY, and any other location where 18 is not the age of majority).  Those videos and images are not included on, "Buck Up, Princess" and it is recommended that anybody not of legal age not visit the Ultra Boyhunter blog itself.

For those of an appropriate age, these pieces are interesting, providing insight into a certain form of intergenerational relationship. Some of the 'helpful hints' may be useful for Dads/lads and Tops/bottoms.

A Boy’s Guide to Pleasing his Daddy: Volume 3

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Daddy’s Cock.
Yes, we are going here. Now come along and be a Good boy and listen to what this Daddy has to tell you. Daddy’s cock is not a toy, first off. It may be fun to play with in different ways, but it should always be respected. Not only does it give him pleasure but it gives you pleasure too. Take your time getting to know and appreciate your Daddy’s cock in such a way as you learn how to please him best. Please: Be HONEST about your inexperience. Pretending to be an expert can end very badly, and some Daddy’s like helping you learn if you give them the chance. The differences between cocks are important to know and your best teacher will be your Daddy himself. There are different things to know about how to please a cut Daddy, an uncut Daddy and a Daddy with piercings or various conditions like phimosis or a dual frenula. While neither are very common to encounter, but it can be a real advantage to be aware of those conditions in case you run into them. When exploring Daddy’s cock, ALWAYS follow his lead and instructions. Actual Techniques will be discussed in depth in future volumes. For now, its basic anatomy and some discussion on the care and treatment of your Daddy’s penis.

The Head :
The head is hands down the most sensitive part of the penis. It can easily be overstimulated, irritated or become painful if proper care isn’t used when attempting to please. It’s important to know the basic differences between the types of head you can encounter and what to do with them. There are 2 common and 2 uncommon variations you may encounter. First is the “Cut Daddy”. This in itself has two basic variations: the Fully Cut and the Partially Cut. The fully cut has been circumcised properly down to the base and has no foreskin or extra skin behind the head at all. The partially cut has most removed but not all, allowing some movement of that skin and may be pleasurable to manipulate. The circumcised penis has a different sensitivity and different areas that may be responsive to touch or other stimulation. The rim, and frenulum may be the most sensitive on a Cut Daddy, so pay special attention to testing out the level of sensitivity there. Always seek approval and confirmation from your Daddy when exploring those places. An “Uncut Daddy “has his foreskin intact and this provides an extra method of pleasing him. Knowing how the foreskin attaches to the back of the head (the frenulum) is very important as pulling it too far down can cause tearing and a great deal of pain. Depending on how tight or loose the foreskin is, you will need to adjust anything you do. Too tight and a firm grip or suction may become painful, too loose and a gentle touch might not mean much. The Uncut Daddy may enjoy feeling the skin roll back and forth across the rim, so consider that when applying suction or grip to it. Take your time, learn the limits and remember them, going too far or losing self control and going to fast or too hard can have disastrous effects. Of note here are two previously mentioned conditions, Phimosis (a contracted or very tight foreskin that may cause the head to be shaped strangely or unable to retract the skin entirely) and Dual-frenula (which is when there is an attachment for the foreskin on both top and bottom of the head of the penis). These conditions relate especially to foreskin and how it was ‘treated’ as your Daddy grew up. Proper care and maintenance of a foreskin makes it a healthy part of your body but neglect or unfortunate conditions can cause it to become very difficult to receive pleasure. Phimosis, in its extreme forms can completely cut off pleasure, causing an extreme amount of pain when aroused. Dual-frenula mean that because the foreskin attaches in two places, there is double risk of tearing and pain, so use care and follow Daddy’s instructions in the matter. Patience is required when dealing with both conditions as they can be risky when having sex or any kind, and may even prevent normal ‘sex’ entirely. There are some very common piercings found in the head. The most being the Barbell or Prince Albert (PA) piercings through the frenulum, the glans or directly through the shaft. These specific pieces of jewelry can increase the difficulty of pleasuring Daddy, so please ask him what to do if your Daddy has these present. He may be willing to take them out, or he may not. Be honest with him. Expressing concern shows you care and want to please, not hurt him.

The Shaft:
This is the biggest area on most penises. It is also the most universal of areas, every man’s shaft has the same basic features, and so it requires less amount of discussion than the head. It is safe to explore with hand, mouth or whatever on most people. It counts for above the first inch at the base to just below the foreskin/circumcision line. This area does not have as much nerve endings as the head but should not be neglected. This area is a prime spot to use some of the stimulation techniques described in previous chapters. Make no mistake the whole penis is sensitive, but this allows you to help control the tempo and prolong the pleasure you are giving your Daddy. How this is done will be discussed in future volumes. The shaft may have a strong vein structure that causes the surface to have ridges, birth marks, moles or scars. Take your time and get to know them. They will help you later on.

The Base:
The base is an area given little attention in most literature, even though it can become very important when used properly. The base, where you most often see a cock ring, can be used to slow down the rate at which orgasm approaches, even halt it entirely without causing pain. If jerked upward tightly it can become very painful, so bracing a hand and holding the base down (firmly or gently) can be good. The more effort you put into the pleasure, the more it becomes obvious that you are focused on the job at hand. Grip on the shaft with hand, mouth or anus, can provide pleasure as it massages blood through the soft spongy tissue, but grip on the base can hold those in place, causing swelling or cutting off the ejaculation entirely. That however can be a dangerous game, so be wary of attempting it.

The Balls:
There are almost as many names for the testicles as there are for the penis itself. They are sensitive egg shaped networks of tubes and veins inside a pouch of flesh. Each one is attached to nerves and tubes leading to the penis, and can get twisted and become painful so be gentle until instructed otherwise. Gentle suction, a light tug, or just hold them in your hand (they like warmth) can be very useful tricks. If you haven’t ever done so before, spend time between your Daddy’s legs, not touching anything just watching his balls. They move, dance even, and when close to orgasm will pull up tightly into ‘firing’ position. This is where cum is made, so treat them with care unless Daddy says otherwise. Then, as always, do what Daddy instructs.

A Boy’s Guide to Pleasing His Daddy: Volume 2

The following is part of a series of, "Lessons from Daddy," posted on TUMBLR by, 'Ultra Boyhunter'

THIS DADDY has no idea if this or any of the other writings are original and claims no ownership of anything written in this series. THIS DADDY doesn't agree with some of the terminology used (the term, Son, for example) and the content does not necessarily  represent the views of THIS DADDY or, 'Buck Up, Princess.'  

The content, as posted on the Ultra Boyhunter blog, contains videos and images which are not appropriate for readers under 18 (21 in AL, MS, NE, WY, and any other location where 18 is not the age of majority).  Those videos and images are not included on, "Buck Up, Princess" and it is recommended that anybody not of legal age not visit the Ultra Boyhunter blog itself.

For those of an appropriate age, these pieces are interesting, providing insight into a certain form of intergenerational relationship. Some of the 'helpful hints' may be useful for Dads/lads and Tops/bottoms.

A Boy’s Guide to Pleasing His Daddy:  Volume 2

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In the previous installment I covered a wealth of knowledge about giving pleasure and receiving it from your Daddy. I will not be covering those points again, you will have to do the homework and read them. Here begins as deep an instruction as can be provided via the internet. As always, these lessons when applied, become more valuable with practice and patience. From here on out, the difference between Daddies becomes VERY important. I’ve said it time and time again that each person is unique and different from others. As a result, the differences in intimacy and pleasuring each other become further apart. I will cover some basics, as well as approach variations of technique and perhaps a little style in these lessons. While every trick will not work on every Daddy, a Good boy knows to persevere and to learn to adapt.

Intimacy
This is not approaching ‘heavy’ petting as discussed in previous lessons, but instead if focused on the ‘pre’ and ‘post’ game activities. This is where you get to show off how Good a boy you are without sexual activity. An example is this: In my house, my son comes down in the morning and the first thing he does is give me a kiss. Groggy, half asleep or showered and bright eyed, the very first thing he does is give me a kiss and say “good morning Daddy”. We never part company, even if just going out of the room when reasonable and when there is time away from each other involved, without saying I love you to each other and we never EVER part in anger. The closeness of a Dad/son relationship can be as close or closer than ours, or as distant in the opposite ways. We prefer an emotional as well as physical level of intimacy that may be uncomfortable for some people.
Getting to know each other is important, especially when it comes to intimacy, which can and is often different from sexual intimacy. Some people have a very hard time being emotionally close to someone, even if they have sex with them, other times it’s just about the sex and domination/submission. The spectrum ranges over a wide variety of things in this arena. Trial and error and experience help determine the boundaries. Some good activities to encourage intimacy are physical closeness without sexual activity. As a boy, it is a double edged sword to want to rest your head in Daddy’s lap and have him stroke your head as you lay there. It can be very risky, or very much a tease. The choice is yours to make. Things like Snuggling up into your Daddy’s arm as you two sit on the couch watching television or music, sitting between his knees and resting your head on them while you talk to him helps for that feeling of closeness. Be comfortable in any position you can find yourself wanting to be closer to him that he is comfortable or willing to let you be in. Always respect boundaries and rules in your relationship.


Kissing: There are three basic kisses. The ‘soft peck’ kiss, the ‘firm long kiss’ and the ‘deep kiss’. The soft peck is the most casual, not the least important however. It shows a desire to give affection without forcing an intimate moment to start. The firm long kiss shows more of this but runs a much higher risk of causing arousal of one or both partners. The Deep Kiss, is long, slow usually involves some tongue action and heavier petting. This one is pretty much a Green Light for sex. Knowing which and when to use can be very useful. A light peck in the morning, a firm kiss upon parting and a deep kiss when passion is called for are great ways to vary your kissing habits. Don’t always dive for the tongue (not everyone likes that) and don’t assume that Daddy is going to let you get away with a peck on the cheek in the morning. A good kiss is not entirely passive either, but follow your Daddy’s lead when it comes to these things and he will show you how he likes to be kissed, and will learn how you like to be kissed.

Cuddling: This one is pretty simple sounding but doing it well takes practice. When curled up next to Daddy on the couch, wrap an arm over his chest and keep the lower arm along your side as putting it behind him might make him uncomfortable. In bed, be willing to change positions, don’t expect to always be the ‘cudlee’ as some Daddy’s love feeling their boy snuggled up behind them with their arms around hugging him like a teddy bear. The same is true in the other direction. Allow your Daddy to be as close as you are both comfortable when laying down together. I sleep with one arm under my sons pillow and the other wrapped around him pulling him close to me at night so he is pressed lengthwise along my body. I even tuck my feet under his so they are on top of mine, and his knees bent slightly so he feels that closeness. When I lay on my back, my son will curl up beside me and rest his head on my chest, which allows my arm that was under him to hold him around back, while the other hand comes over to grip the other one as a hug around him as he nuzzles into my chest hair. Being a Good boy, he never misses a chance to snuggle.

Appreciation: This part goes both ways, as most of these lessons truly do, and extends beyond previous lessons into a few special areas. Your Daddy not only needs to feel and see that you appreciate him, but he needs to hear it. Like you need to hear that you are a Good boy, Daddy needs to feel appreciated AS your Daddy. The role of Daddy can be very serious for some of us, and as such we like hearing things like “Thank you Daddy” or “I’m the luckiest boy because I have you as a Daddy’. These also give him a chance to appreciate you too. This needs to go beyond simply not rolling over and snoring after sex, or even cuddling. There needs to be more mutual appreciation shown following the ‘roles and rules’ of the relationship. Nothing makes a boy feel safer than having Daddy’s arms wrapped around him as he falls asleep, and there is little better for me as a Daddy to know that my son feels perfectly safe, content and comfortable in my arms. Appreciation is something that should also not be neglected out of bed as well, and by making gratitude, appreciation and respect part of your relationship with Daddy you bring yourself closer to him.

A Boy’s Guide to Pleasing His Daddy: Volume 1

The following is part of a series of, "Lessons from Daddy," posted on TUMBLR by, 'Ultra Boyhunter'

THIS DADDY has no idea if this or any of the other writings are original and claims no ownership of anything written in this series. THIS DADDY doesn't agree with some of the terminology used (the term, Son, for example) and the content does not necessarily  represent the views of THIS DADDY or, 'Buck Up, Princess.'  

The content, as posted on the Ultra Boyhunter blog, contains videos and images which are not appropriate for readers under 18 (21 in AL, MS, NE, WY, and any other location where 18 is not the age of majority).  Those videos and images are not included on, "Buck Up, Princess" and it is recommended that anybody not of legal age not visit the Ultra Boyhunter blog itself.

For those of an appropriate age, these pieces are interesting, providing insight into a certain form of intergenerational relationship. Some of the 'helpful hints' may be useful for Dads/lads and Tops/bottoms.

A Boy’s Guide to Pleasing his Daddy: Volume 1

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These are some basic pointers for a Good boy when dealing with Daddy.

The first and most important thing for a Good boy is to want, no need, Daddy’s approval and his pleasure and to show that he does.As the boy, your desire to please, and pleasure your Daddy, is a key tool in achieving that very goal. His touch is one way he can show his pleasure, and approval, to you and it’s a prefect opportunity to respond in kind. Gently holding the side of your face, the back of your neck, putting his hand in the small of your back, or anywhere he wants to touch. These moments are your chance to respond with or without words. Smile, press your face into the hand, nuzzle the hand that’s touching you, show genuine appreciation for your Daddy at times like that especially. He is reaching out to touch you for a reason,accept and enjoy that fact. Your pleasure in what you are doing can become a very powerful tool to make him even happier. Some Daddies respond VERY strongly to sounds, like whimpers, moans, groans and sighs. Even things like giggling and laughter can bring pleasure to your Daddy. Ultimately only you will get to know your Daddy, and that takes time.

Second would be some basic behaviors. A Good boy has many responsibilities, including being on his best behavior at all times. When Daddy asks a question or decides to instruct, reply ‘Yes, Daddy’ and do your best to do as he has instructed.If you are having trouble doing something be honest with Daddy, and especially when he asks you something. “Thank you Daddy” is a good thing to remember as appreciation, respect and consideration are important features of a Good Boy. When he gives a direct instruction, follow as quickly and accurately as possible. It may not always be easy, but that could also be the point, to see how dedicated you are to what you are doing.Try hard, and when you need to, ask him for help. That can take the form of his hands guiding your head, holding your hips or hands, or anything else so he teaches you exactly how to do it. Ask if you are doing it right, doing a good job , or even ‘am I being a Good boy Daddy?’. Your ability to be honest, and to earnestly seek his approval as mentioned before is a key element that will be repeated throughout these lessons.

Third would be some basic skills: As previous lessons I have written have instructed (a Good boy reads his homework, even if he doesn’t understand how it applies to him Moans Finger Rim Combo) you have a basic knowledge of anatomy, response and pleasure thresholds and methods of responding to those factors. These guides can show you how Daddy wants to give you pleasure, how to respond appropriately and more importantly to this lesson how to give that pleasure to your Daddy. An erection is only one way to tell if your Daddy is enjoying what you are doing, but you need more than that. The difference between a random cocksucker and his boy is that you belong where you are, where he has placed you and shown he trusts you to be. It’s not simply a matter of obedience, as the previous lessons discussed, it is that you need to be there. It makes you truly happy that he enjoys what you do, and that he loves and trusts you enough to let you do it. I highly recommend each boy reads my lessons on fingering, rimming and especially the moans. These are instructions on how to not only make your Daddy desire you, but to show him pleasure he may never have experienced with anyone before, moving you from a Good boy to “Best Boy”, which is a coveted place for a boy. You know what Daddy can make you feel, and your desire to bring that out of him too is what will give you the determination needed to reach for that goal.

Fourth: Self Control. While this is a basic skill and a behavior set it deserves its own entry. Self-control for a boy is reflected in his ability to hold off the desire to pleasure himself (this is why some people use chastity devices, to deny that urge entirely) and his ability to follow instructions. Depending on the age and experience of your Daddy he may have had many more years at this and more hours than you, so his guidance and instruction should be followed. There are some positions that are not easy to master for a boy, because they can cause extreme stimulation, but they are worth putting certain things aside for a time. When a boy is given instructions that are counter to his immediate gratification he should obey them, there are good reasons for them, but having to stop and explain everything can ruin a mood. Ask questions, but at the right time. Being able to control yourself, your desire and your curiosity for a time are crucial skills. If you ask questions constantly, you may ruin the mood or worse, you might miss swallowing that load you worked so hard for. Keep your mind on your task and your eyes on the prize. What you want will come to you, especially if you are a good boy and follow these basic guidelines. Daddy still decides how and when, but that’s his job because its what you want him to do. You need him to want to give you pleasure, and these basic steps bring you one step closer to that goal. More will follow later. Your thoughts are welcomed, so if you have anything to add or respond to, feel free to use ask, fan mail or which ever suits you. You may also reply to this post since I will ask a question at the end.

Who thinks this will help them be a Good boy for Daddy?

The Combo Technique

The following is part of a series of, "Lessons from Daddy," posted on TUMBLR by, 'Ultra Boyhunter'

THIS DADDY has no idea if this or any of the other writings are original and claims no ownership of anything written in this series. THIS DADDY doesn't agree with some of the terminology used (the term, Son, for example) and the content does not necessarily  represent the views of THIS DADDY or, 'Buck Up, Princess.'  

The content, as posted on the Ultra Boyhunter blog, contains videos and images which are not appropriate for readers under 18 (21 in AL, MS, NE, WY, and any other location where 18 is not the age of majority).  Those videos and images are not included on, "Buck Up, Princess" and it is recommended that anybody not of legal age not visit the Ultra Boyhunter blog itself.

For those of an appropriate age, these pieces are interesting, providing insight into a certain form of intergenerational relationship. Some of the 'helpful hints' may be useful for Dads/lads and Tops/bottoms.

The Combo Technique.

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The Combo Technique.
Rimming shouldn’t be a ‘clean’ event, its a contact sport, the same with fingering. If you’ve paid attention to the order I’ve described events in, a typical scene should run like this.

Your boy, laying on his back with his knees up, feels you slide down behind his hole. You start with a gentle exhale of warm air across the skin while gently massaging his cheeks, you place a soft kiss on the ring, then lick upward with your tongue, exhaling across the skin as you go. You drag your upper lip from the top to the bottom of the hole flicking with your tongue as you go down. You take a deep inhale as your nose slides past, then bringing your chin upward, slide your chin up exhaling as you go past again. You stop now, to kiss the ring, flick it with your tongue, probe gently with the tip and massage the inner thighs and cheeks with your hands. You gently slide the cheeks apart and press your face against the hole and begin moving your tongue in circles, tapping the ring with the tip, and kissing, biting and chewing the skin around the inner thighs, taint and above and below the hole.

Taking a breather, you sit back, still gripping his cheeks in your hands. You turn your thumbs toward his ring and being gently massaging the flesh to either side of his now warm ring. You know from his reactions and his gasps, you’ve done your job, as he whimpers quietly while he holds his legs in the air for you. You shift your hands so you don’t break contact, and slide one hand down while still holding his other cheek. Slowly you begin rubbing your finger around the rim, pausing now and again to tap the center of the hole to wake it up even more and let it know its time for more. You begin alternating the circling finger with a slide slowly from the top to the ring to press firmly with the tip without entering yet. You know the longer you make him wait for what he wants the greater his need for it.

You begin sliding your finger pad from top to bottom, bracing it with a finger crossed behind it so your touch is firm but not forcing the hole to open because you want it to open for you not because of you. Slowly you begin sliding the tip of the first finger past the ring as it begins winking at you, encouraging you to go further. Not wanting to miss the invitation, you slide in to the first knuckle and gently, slowly, slide back out and circle the ring once more with your finger. Then you slide back in, this time a little further, and pull out even slower than before. Taking your time, you continue until you’ve slid your finger in all the way, moving one knuckle at a time, and when that final penetration comes to go all the way you slide slowly in until you feel a roundness under your fingertip. Gently you begin rubbing it, massaging it slowly but firmly, as your boy begins to tense and flex around your finger, you know you’ve hit your destination, his prostate and slide your finger gently out to massage the ring again.

Daddy Says: Here is where the combination of techniques comes in. It may be common sense but common sense is an uncommon virtue, so it bears explaining here.

The Combination Technique.
Taking everything I’ve described previously, you start all over, but mix techniques together. You’ve already gone finger deep but this is only half way to really being ready to get fucked. Relaxed and open is just part of it, you want your bottom writhing on the bed by the time he feels the head of your cock tip tease across his hole before sliding in.This is how the rest of it goes.

You slide back down to lick around the rim with your tongue, exhaling across the skin, not withdrawing your finger fully, but leaving the tip in, dragging the hole downward slightly so your tongue can slide up your finger and in past the ring at the tip. Exhaling into the ring itself, you slide your finger in deep again to massage the prostate, licking the ring around your finger and pausing to take a gentle bite of the soft inner thigh while you slide your finger out.

You know that alternating penetration with a little bite distracts from discomfort and makes it easier to continue. You slide your finger out all the way and using both hands spread the ring gently and dive in with your tongue, massaging the ring with your fingers as your tongue presses firmly against the ring. With your tongue tip there, you slide first one fingertip then a second to just the first knuckle past the ring so your tongue can more easily wet the interior ring. Inhaling deeply and letting out a low moan, the shivers make your boy contract around your finger as you place deep kisses against his ring, teasing with your chin and flicking with your tongue. Sliding one finger in, still keeping the second tip at the ring your tongue slides up to lick the taint then back down as your finger slides back out until both are just inside the ring. You continue this until the ring relaxes and you slide the second finger in gently, along side the first into the slick opening that is now aching for much more.

You bite a little harder on a thigh then drag your tongue along the skin back to the ring as you slide two fingers gently back out. Slowly, patiently you continue alternating and combining techniques until your fingers slide without much resistance in and out. Then you know its time, and not just because your bottom is begging you loudly to fuck him, but because his ass is red, wet and aching, pulsing around your fingers. Then you slide up to kiss him, and brush the head of your cock against his hole.

The rest as they say is where nature takes over. Take your time enjoy teasing your bottom into a frenzy, and enjoy each other in as many ways as you can.

Bon Appetite. 

How to Rim a Bottom: The Elements of a Good Tongue Lashing

The following is part of a series of, "Lessons from Daddy," posted on TUMBLR by, 'Ultra Boyhunter'

THIS DADDY has no idea if this or any of the other writings are original and claims no ownership of anything written in this series. THIS DADDY doesn't agree with some of the terminology used (the term, Son, for example) and the content does not necessarily  represent the views of THIS DADDY or, 'Buck Up, Princess.'  

The content, as posted on the Ultra Boyhunter blog, contains videos and images which are not appropriate for readers under 18 (21 in AL, MS, NE, WY, and any other location where 18 is not the age of majority).  Those videos and images are not included on, "Buck Up, Princess" and it is recommended that anybody not of legal age not visit the Ultra Boyhunter blog itself.

For those of an appropriate age, these pieces are interesting, providing insight into a certain form of intergenerational relationship. Some of the 'helpful hints' may be useful for Dads/lads and Tops/bottoms.

 How to Rim a Bottom: The Elements of a Good Tongue Lashing

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The Basics of Rimming:
Rimming isn’t just a matter of ‘eating out’ a nice butt. It’s about touch, heat and pleasing your bottom. By properly rimming you help them relax, which is crucial for more activity to go smoothly. I usually advise rimming BEFORE fingering for several reasons, not the least of which is it helps relax the anus making that stage of fingering much easier but NOT to be neglected. Sex that is like in porn is barely the middle of the spectrum of pleasure a good Top can make his bottom experience. I will cover several different aspects of Rimming in this lesson, and later I will discuss how to combine the two to create a more advanced technique.


Part 1: Positions to rim in.
There are several positions to rim in, the two most popular are when your bottom is on all fours, back straight and bottom fully exposed, and the other is on their back with their legs tucked upward, but really any position where your bottom is comfortable can work.
These first two positions are most useful because of where the prostate is located during the activity. On all fours, gravity is holding it in close to its normal position. On their back, the prostate is lowered slightly, almost dangling behind the inner walls and is easier to stimulate in this position. Both are equally useful, though my favorite is on their backs, because it also allows you to massage the groin around the genitals (and to a degree ignore them, but there are several reasons for that and different times to pay attention to them, right now you want them focused on their ass, so don’t jump the gun and switch centers of pleasure on them, stay focused on their ass, just like you want them to be.)

Part 2: What to do and when.
Experience is the best teacher, but some foreknowledge will help you recognize the signals your bottom can’t hide or resist telling you about. Lets take our first look at what you have to use in this situation. You have 5 tools already at your disposal on your face alone for stimulating your bottom as a Top.  In order I recommend these being used and most often: Breath, Lips, Tongue,

Nose and Chin.
Breath: This ranges from a slow gentle close exhale, to a quick cooling breath across the sensitive skin of the anus. A slow deep exhale, especially with a sigh or growl from you provide audible stimulation as well as vibration through the area if you are up against the ring itself. It lets your bottom know you are enjoying eating their ass without porn dialogue, and those gentle vibrations help stimulate the internal organs you are looking forward to fucking. Breath is foreplay, and can be used to  spur your bottom further or make them shiver depending on which technique you use. As a Top you also need to remember to breathe when eating so it lasts longer and so you don’t wind up passing out or having to stop. Continual contact and stimulation is the goal here.

Lips can be used to place gentle kisses, deep long kisses, slid aside to expose teeth for biting, nibbling and chewing (which I recommend to use occasionally, alternated with a cooling breath to bring maximum stimulation) and gives the bottom a genuine sensation of being eaten, which can be very arousing for some boys. Lips can also be dragged across the skin of the anus by placing your top lip above the ring, and pulling down slowly, if your lips are dry they will skid a little, which is a different sensation from the other techniques used, and can be very helpful for breaking the ice and getting to the good stuff and lead directly to the use of the tongue.
Tongue is the most obvious and the most used and useful tool as it is warm, wet and gentle even when pressed firmly against the ring of the anus, and it is the one you have the second most control over, breath being the most controlled technique. The tongue can probe through the folds of the anus, flick across the skin, or slather it up with long strokes. The tongue is by far the most effective technique for direct stimulation.

Nose has a few interesting uses to be used occasionally as counter point to the tongue. A deep inhalation of the scent, followed by a slow exhale through the mouth provides both an opportunity to catch your breath but to enhance that feeling of being eaten and for some, worshiped, and lets be honest, the scent of a butt can be VERY arousing. Another technique involves using the nose instead of a finger, and dragging it across the ring from down to up, which puts the lips in line to bite/kiss, the breath in position to exhale directly on the ring, and then the final tool is in position to be used.

The Chin can be occasionally useful and has various applications. If you are clean shaven, the chin will slide smoothly, if you have stubble, used gently this can ‘tickle’ or stimulate further blood flow into the area. A beard however long, so long as it isn’t stubble or still sticking straight out from the chin, can be used to stimulate and ‘clean up’ the spit from other techniques. The chin can also be used to drag, like the lips, but in the opposite direction. By alternating the lip drag and the chin scrape, you have a soft sensation going down and a stronger, firmer sensation going up, and once again put you in position to go right back to using your breath and tongue.

This covers the basics of Rimming for now. Part 3 is coming next, and will be covering the combination of techniques to create that advanced skill I mentioned earlier.
 

How to Please a Bottom: Basic Anatomy and Fingering Techniques

The following is part of a series of, "Lessons from Daddy," posted on TUMBLR by, 'Ultra Boyhunter'

THIS DADDY has no idea if this or any of the other writings are original and claims no ownership of anything written in this series. THIS DADDY doesn't agree with some of the terminology used (the term, Son, for example) and the content does not necessarily  represent the views of THIS DADDY or, 'Buck Up, Princess.'  

The content, as posted on the Ultra Boyhunter blog, contains videos and images which are not appropriate for readers under 18 (21 in AL, MS, NE, WY, and any other location where 18 is not the age of majority).  Those videos and images are not included on, "Buck Up, Princess" and it is recommended that anybody not of legal age not visit the Ultra Boyhunter blog itself.

For those of an appropriate age, these pieces are interesting, providing insight into a certain form of intergenerational relationship. Some of the 'helpful hints' may be useful for Dads/lads and Tops/bottoms.

 http://ultraboyhunter.tumblr.com/post/68672393676/you-seem-to-know-how-to-really-please-a-bottom-do-you

Posted by Ultra Boyhunter on December 1, 2013

Daddy Responds: I am going to answer this with several posts, because the question isn’t a simple answer of ‘stick it in and wiggle’. The first part of this lesson from Daddy is going to cover the basics of fingering a bottom with some basic anatomy, and technique guidance because more knowledge isn’t a bad thing, where less knowledge can cost you a great sexual experience. I will address how to Rim in a separate series of posts as well as the more advanced techniques combining the two skills for maximum effect.

 

Lesson 1: A map to success.
The illustration above has several pieces of information which are important so I will break them down piece by piece, including some anatomy.Prior to ANY of this there are a few things that need tending to. File down the edge of your fingernails so they are smooth, no ragged edges, and preferably not very long. The extra edge can cause tearing/bleeding/and pain which are not the goal here. For the bottom however, they need to be clean outside and preferably have at least voided their bowels and cleaned up afterward.

PROTIP: internal cleansing (douche) is not advisable regularly for numerous reasons, so don’t worry about cleaning ALL the way up inside, its ass f*cking, expect it to be messy to a certain degree, but its good for both to be considerate and properly clean themselves. Bottoms: that means clean yourself thoroughly and Tops: you trim those nails and smooth them a little. It’s not girly, its polite.  One additional note for the tops: learn to enjoy this process and put your own erection and desire to fuck on hold, because the hotter the bottom gets, the better the ride.

First: The Cheeks.
The rounded line behind the base of the finger, this is the ‘cheek’  exterior. Depending on the position of the bottom and their basic shape, this can become an important factor as pulling them apart to get in there can adjust the position of internal points of interest, so for now we will assume that the cheeks are relaxed and the bottom bent over on all fours with their back straight not leaning down (other variations will be covered in later lessons). Do not however ignore them, as they are the ‘guardians’ of what lies past them. Massage them gently, one in each hand, knead gently like you are making dough, and move gently (i cant emphasize that enough GENTLY until you know exactly what kind of touch your bottom likes)in small circles moving in opposite directions, opening and closing the space between them so that the anus is exposed and then protected again. This subtle technique helps the bottom relax and feel more secure in what’s going on. An uptight bottom makes for a tensed ring and that isn’t going to help you. The cheeks are your best friend for several reasons, so treat them as such, or they won’t let you past to the next gate keeper, the Ring of the anus.


Second: The Ring itself.
Now while the Cheeks were sort of like the friends that sometimes try to keep you from hurting their friend, the anus is like the actual body guard. A clenched ring makes it MUCH more difficult, and this spot is usually the most difficult to work with as a lot of ‘male frigidity’ or ‘sexual pain’ sufferers respond most poorly to stimulating it. While these two things are very uncommon, it is not unusual to run into very reactionary rings among less experienced bottoms, virgins especially. The way past the ring, is to treat it like a puzzle box. Hitting just one spot wont let you past, but a series of strokes from out to in, as well as a technique in massage called ‘tapotement’, in specific the use of the tapping technique, where you gently tap a gentle slow beat to wake the nervous system up, get blood flowing into the area and increase sensitivity. Between gentle swirls, tapping and sliding the finger from out a few inches to just where it touches the ring, the anus will start to relax and even start ‘winking’ which is natures way of saying ‘come on in boy’ and you’d better heed that welcome. Slide in a little (no further than the first knuckle) once that happens, then slide back out slowly. Use this for a few strokes THEN move to the second knuckle, repeating the outer ring techniques described then slide back in. Continue, patiently and gently until you have your finger buried to the base. That’s when the fun REALLY starts.

Third:  The Prostate.
In this position with the butt relaxed, the prostate which is the turbo button for a boys desire to get f*cked is sitting directly past his hip bone. A good gauge is if your thumb is pressed against the perineum (taint) the curve of your index finger as it slides in will be against the prostate when the thumb and index form a C with the two separated approximately 3 inches and your index inserted to the base. Do NOT just jam and twist around until you find it. Relax your finger and let it follow the natural shape of the insides of your bottom. Forcing it at this stage might be a shock, and since you are knuckle deep in a boy, that ring might slam shut on your finger, which can be quite painful depending on their internal strength. Once you have your finger relaxed and fully inserted, and they start responding to your touch, begin slowly moving your index finger in a small circle, and after a while do the same with your thumb which is against their taint. Right now, if you are in the proper position, the prostate is actually between the thumb and index, and by stimulating it internally and externally you bring blood into those areas, warming them, making them relaxed and more sensitive to stimulation. This is the goal even more than the pleasure for both of you because with a little effort on the Tops part, the prostate becomes stimulated and grows slightly in size, which means when your dick is in there, and not your finger, you will hit that magic spot much more often.

That’s it for the basics of part one, part two is coming next: Rimming techniques.

The Nine Basic Rules a Boy Should Follow

The following is part of a series of, "Lessons from Daddy," posted on TUMBLR by, 'Ultra Boyhunter'

THIS DADDY has no idea if this or any of the other writings are original and claims no ownership of anything written in this series. THIS DADDY doesn't agree with some of the terminology used (the term, Son, for example) and the content does not necessarily  represent the views of THIS DADDY or, 'Buck Up, Princess.'  

The content, as posted on the Ultra Boyhunter blog, contains videos and images which are not appropriate for readers under 18 (21 in AL, MS, NE, WY, and any other location where 18 is not the age of majority).  Those videos and images are not included on, "Buck Up, Princess" and it is recommended that anybody not of legal age not visit the Ultra Boyhunter blog itself.

For those of an appropriate age, these pieces are interesting, providing insight into a certain form of intergenerational relationship. Some of the 'helpful hints' may be useful for Dads/lads and Tops/bottoms.

The Nine Basic Rules a Boy Should Follow
Ultra Boyhunter

Posted on Tumblr, December 28, 2013

These are in no particular order, and these rules are expected to be followed by a Good boy, because Daddy follows them from the start.

Respect: You have the right to your feelings, to be sad or angry when those moments come, but at no time should ‘angry words’ that degrade, abuse or diminish the value of your Daddy be used. Physical violence in any form is absolutely forbidden, Daddy would never strike you no matter how angry he may get, so you should never ever let your anger dominate you instead of your love for Daddy. You respect who Daddy Is as a person, then your partner, THEN as Daddy. Words like “Sissy, Faggot, and Pussy” are used to degrade and punish, and should not be used about your self or your Daddy. The shortest road to being a “Bad Boy” is to degrade/disrespect yourself. Do not wallow in self pity, negative thoughts about yourself, or allow your self esteem to stop Daddy from loving you the way he wants to, and you need him to. Blame, when properly placed is fine, but do not constantly apologize for everything like you expect to be beaten if you don’t.

Honor: Honor may sound similar to respect at first glance but it goes further and touches upon very special things. Honor is more about thoughts, feelings, wishes and desires both in public and private. In public, Daddy would not force you to display affection you might be uncomfortable with, and if you tell him so, he will honor that wish, just as you should honor his boundaries in public and private. Respect can be seen as understanding, where Honoring is obeying the limits that respect creates. By honoring and respecting your Daddy, just as he does you, you two mutually create the shape and scope of your relationship in and outside of the bedroom.

Submission: This is NOT how it sounds at first. A Good boy does submit but not in the ‘usual’ way. A good boy does not throw away his wants, needs, desires, free will, or person-hood in favor of Daddy’s will. Quite the opposite. Those things are what made Daddy want you to be his son, why would he throw those away? Daddy gives you permission (when you ask for it) to explore your desires, dreams and fantasies together with his guidance and help to realize them. The only explicit domination Daddy exerts is his desire to have you ‘ask’ for permission, even if you know it will be granted, purely as a formality. The greatest gift is a boy’s submission to the pleasure Daddy wishes to give him, and to his own desires to please Daddy. If we respect  the roles we have accepted, and honor  the limits we set for each other, and submit to mutually created lives, we become truer to ourselves and our innermost needs.

Companionship: A boy is a natural companion to his Daddy. Able to be by his side at any event, on any outing, or just together for no reason other than to be close. Be comfortable accompanying Daddy anytime he wishes. Listen to his stories, as he listens to yours. Ask about his Day, fill the empty places that a partner would fill, but go further and fill that space set aside for a son and companion. It is the place he wishes you to be in, and one you belong in. Take the time to be supportive of his efforts, respect his need to work and his space (if any is needed or required). Always be the good companion, there to accept his attention, affection and the time he wishes to spend with you.

Passion: Daddy has already given you permission to be the passionate, sexual creature you are meant to be. Do not restrain or deny this side of yourself, unless it violates other rules listed here or created between you and your Daddy. You would not want him to be cool all the time in bed, or in foreplay for him to be unresponsive, so do not be that way to him.

Affection: Express your affection in every way possible. This shows your appreciation for all that Daddy is and does for you and with you. Kiss your Daddy as often as he and you are comfortable. This is your chance to demonstrate you appreciate him, find creative ways to do so beyond sex. Sex is only one way to appreciate you Daddy. Hold hands, cuddle with him in bed, snuggle on the couch watching movies together, sit next to him at mealtime, smile as often as you can at him. Express your love without words as often as possible. Use the language of love even more so.

Caring: When your Daddy is having a ‘bad day’, feels sad, or upset, or even angry at something, do your best to be supportive of him without being oppressive or denying him the right to have his feelings. He would not want you to be sad for long, but understands the need for such feelings and does his best to make you feel better. As you should for him as often as you can. It is part of being a loving, good boy to care for your Daddy’s well being, happiness and comfort.

Love: This is a simple rule. Love your Daddy. Do not simply obey, submit and be a toy for his pleasure. Truly love him as he loves you. A Daddy holds you in a special place in his heart, as you should with him. Discover together how your love manifests between you both.

Commitment: This is the bond of trust.It means being true and faithful to your Daddy, as he should be to you. In this age it especially means no side play with others without the consent or sharing with each other at the same time. Commitment is as important to keep as the love you share. If the Love is broken, the relationship can heal over time or end. If the commitment, the trust, is broken then there may be no real return to what you had before. Trust may be given at the start, but you must continue to earn it and remain committed to what you have gained or you risk its complete destruction. There cannot be casual infractions of commitment for a son or a Daddy, as it breaks the relationship in a way that throws its entire value into question.

FIFTY WAYS TO LEAVE YOUR LOVER....PLEASE!

As I've written in the past, my dating/romantic life has completely stalled out.  There are, of course, may reasons for this:  I am not attracted to other bearish guys; I am not attracted to guys my own age or older; I am both physically and temperamentally  an, 'acquired taste.'  This things all of to do with me.  A reason that doesn't have to do with me:  the propensity on the part of guys in bad relationships to stay in those relationships out of fear.

As the old saying goes, 'the monster you know is less scary than the one you don't.'  I get it, trust me.  I stayed in a relationship, one that lasted for over ten years, at least three years too long.  He knew it, I knew it, yet we both stayed.  In the end, the break-up was far more painful than it should have been. Looking back, we are both clearly better off.  Granted, he left me for an unemployed, nelly, nearly retarded, bearish guy, who looks 10 years older than he is...but still...they've now been together nearly as long as my ex and I were and they seem very happy.  They share a house my ex and I lived in for most of the time we were together, which is located only 80 feet away from the little house by the Big Lake in which I live, so it is pretty easy for me to see how happy they are together:).

Two of the boys I play with, on occasion, fit this stereotype.  One, who turns 40 this year, is literally one of the sexiest men I've ever met.  He is smart, sincere, is an amazing f*ck, and yet is stuck in an unhappy relationship because he worries nobody else would want him.  He is, at least as far as I can tell, the brass ring:  handsome, sexy, successful, sweet, hard-working.  Yet, he worries that if he were to break up with his partner, he'd end up alone.  Poppycock!  The other boy is in his early 30's.  He has, or so it seems to me, clearly had some personal and professional ups and downs.  He is, and has been for a long time, a sexless relationship, because his, 'boyfriend' was willing to date him, when his life was in a total downward spiral, so he feels like he 'owes' it to his boyfriend to stay, and, of course, he worries nobody else would want him?

WTF?  To me this is just like the fear most of us experienced with coming out.  Back in my day, I am old, remember, coming out was a major trauma.  In my case, the trauma was made even deeper because I am in the military.  Yet, like nearly everybody else I've ever met, once I came out, I looked back and wondered, 'just what the hell was the big deal?' 

Look, trust me.  I am a Daddy, I know about this stuff.  If you are in a bad relationship, get out of it!  As bitter as I seem some times, and as much as I miss being in a happy relationship (like the one Sam and I shared), I am way better off being alone, than being in a bad, unsatisfying, or unhealthy relationship. And, of course, it means I am available to someone who has taken this advise and seeks a healthier, more fulfilling relationship.
 

At least, that is what THIS DADDY thinks.

Rosemary Clooney - Fifty Ways To Leave Your Lover, from, "Nice to be Around," 1977, United Artist Records, Limited.

Sing it Brother!

Jeremy HelligarFreelance journalist, blogger, author, ‘Is It True What They Say about Black Men?

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I came across this article today on the Huffington Post.  I don't agree with the premise completely, for example, I've been trying to avoid dating anybody as Sam, my last boyfriend, who was 24 when we met, but still...when the author says, "Despite the social and economic limitations of his youth, I was attracted to his openness and his fearlessness (if coming out wasn't the dare involved). I was his first boyfriend, and he dived right into the relationship, unencumbered by the baggage of past loves and disappointments. He wasn't jaded. He may have looked like a baby, but the courage and vigor with which he pursued me was all true man. As with most of my relationships with younger guys, none of which were just about sex or my paying their way, we had a smooth ride out of the starting gate because there weren't all those roadblocks that get bumpier as potential mates get older: fear of rejection, pride, a need to keep score lest the scales tip causing him to lose the upper hand. He hadn't lived long enough to compile a lengthy list of rules, so he forged recklessly ahead."  I get exactly what he means. 

I don't write very often these days, mostly because my dating life is so stagnant, it seems
counter-intuitive to write about something (intergenerational dating), I am not really experiencing at the moment.  My romantic life has been at such a standstill for so long, there are days when I think it is relic of the past. That said,  in my more positive moments, as the author avers, "I'll take the fear-free, the shining light of wild, youthful abandon, whether it comes in vintage packaging from before 1974, or wrapping that was made in the late '80s. That was the era that gave us Dangerous Liaisons, MTV's 120 Minutes, and "Oscar winner Cher." Who's to say it didn't produce Mr. Right, too?" 

At least, that is what THIS DADDY thinks (too)!

Me and My Shadow, Strolling Down the Avenue

I think I becoming a (well, perhaps more so, anyway) grumpy, old man. What makes me say that? I HATE...JUST HATE, when I walk into a restaurant (which I do often, as I can't cook, and even if I could, the oven at the little house by the big lake always fills the place with smoke whenever try to use it) and I asked, "just one?"

Okay, maybe it's just because I've been single forever and sort of underwhelmed by that fact, but to me this expression is both insulting and demeaning. I used to try and make a joke out it. I'd say, "what, am I not enough?". Lately, though, I have started be more blunt and saying, "You know, lonely, single, old folks hate being referred to as 'just one.'

Don't get me wrong, will I really do enjoy my alone time, just me and my crazy dog, hanging out, but being single I find there is a LOT more of this alone time than I've had before. At my age, most of my friends are married or partnered and focused (as they should be) in their own lives. Also, I've never been a guy who has 'buddies.'

I think at my age I've lived a full and successful life, so single or not, I don't see myself as, 'just' anything.

At least, that is what THIS DADDY thinks.