Wednesday, December 17, 2014
Is a Daddy/Lad Relationship the Same is a Master/Slave Relationship? Concept to Be Considered #4
Print TopicAs for the difference between boy and slave in a BDSM context, this is the shortest explanation from the page:
"A boy is told what to do. A slave does what he's told." - Larry Burden, Avatar LA
It seems to be an emphasis on mentorship vs. an emphasis on servitude, essentially.
BDSM is not always about sex, btw. Its closer to a type of relationship someone has with themselves and the people they are close to, in my opinion.
~just a newt~
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You have such an interesting blog. Thanks for sharing, I enjoyed reading your posts. All the best for your future blogging journey.
ReplyDeleteAre there degrees of being a "boy"? Are there examples of daddy/boy relationships that exist as a sexual arrangement or do daddy/boy relationships extend beyond the bedroom? There would have to be varying degrees of the daddy/boy relationship. Otherwise, I'm in big trouble :-)
ReplyDeleteYes, Dan, these relationships by there nature vary. I've been a Daddy in a long-term 'romantic' and a Daddy in a long-term fuck buddy relationship. See the comment above. Sam, the young man to whom this blog is dedicated, we're very much in love. This was a romantic love, with a Daddy/boy component. Lots of learning and sharing, mentorship and advising. 24 when we met, he was a self-sufficient adult. I wasn't his parent. I offered advice and counsel but he made his own decisions. Even though our romantic relationship ended, much to my chagrin, we remain close. He told me recently, 'you'll always be my Daddy.' BD, on the other hand, see each other only rarely. Usually when his stress level is high and he needs a 'release.' I fuck him like a b*tch...which he wants and desires, then I hold him and kiss him and let him know I cherish him and belI've he is special. I listen when he needs to talk, I give advice upon request, never judging. He tells me things he'd never dare tell anybody else. Then, refreshed, he leaves, relaxed and happy. A Daddy doesn't own you. If you are in a relationship where, whether long term romantic or fuck buddy in nature, you aren't valued and cherished, it is a bad relationship and you are in trouble. If you are in one that, serious or not, is nurturing, healthy, as long as you and the Daddy are on the same wave length as to what it is, then you are doing just fine. You and he get to define it and grow it so that it suits you both.
DeleteYes, Dan, these relationships by there nature vary. I've been a Daddy in a long-term 'romantic' and a Daddy in a long-term fuck buddy relationship. See the comment above. Sam, the young man to whom this blog is dedicated, we're very much in love. This was a romantic love, with a Daddy/boy component. Lots of learning and sharing, mentorship and advising. 24 when we met, he was a self-sufficient adult. I wasn't his parent. I offered advice and counsel but he made his own decisions. Even though our romantic relationship ended, much to my chagrin, we remain close. He told me recently, 'you'll always be my Daddy.' BD, on the other hand, see each other only rarely. Usually when his stress level is high and he needs a 'release.' I fuck him like a b*tch...which he wants and desires, then I hold him and kiss him and let him know I cherish him and belI've he is special. I listen when he needs to talk, I give advice upon request, never judging. He tells me things he'd never dare tell anybody else. Then, refreshed, he leaves, relaxed and happy. A Daddy doesn't own you. If you are in a relationship where, whether long term romantic or fuck buddy in nature, you aren't valued and cherished, it is a bad relationship and you are in trouble. If you are in one that, serious or not, is nurturing, healthy, as long as you and the Daddy are on the same wave length as to what it is, then you are doing just fine. You and he get to define it and grow it so that it suits you both.
DeleteI'm very new to this Daddy/boy relationship dynamic ("new" as in within the past 6 months) so I have a lot of questions so thank you for taking the time to respond.
DeleteI'm enjoying your blog very much though at my age, I feel like I should have already known this about myself. Still, I'm glad to know that there aren't any hard and fast "rules" about how this dynamic can, should, or will work. As with any type of relationship, it requires open and honest communication about needs, desires, and expectations.
Dan, any Daddy worth his salt loves to give advice and offer mentorship. You are welcome to ask me anything you like, anytime you like.
ReplyDeleteDan, any Daddy worth his salt loves to give advice and offer mentorship. You are welcome to ask me anything you like, anytime you like.
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